My Cancer and Me

My Cancer and Me

Because I don’t believe in being “sad” and “sick” I had planned on being quiet about my sickness.

But, the news is getting around anyways. And the inquiries are steady coming in one by one.

Then … it dawned on me.
I usually update y’all when I’m doing good, looking good and feeling good, and so I must update you on the facts now that I am looking bad with my bald head, and no hair; feeling bad with no appetite and no energy … BUT, I still got a “mind”, which causes my “behind” to find easy ways for me to enjoy my days.

My son Riley JR is devastated by my sickness and has taken an over active role in my therapy because he and me is determined to keep me alive. I feel loved.

Here’s my story!

My sickness started or I became aware of both cancer and heart attack diagnosis on Tuesday April 16, 2013

I have liver cancer and my chemo treatments which started 2 months ago seem to be working in my favor. I have had 2 heart attacks since April 16.

Both heart attacks would have been fatal had I not decided to go to the ER and check out the weird feelings that I suddenly started experiencing that day; like losing my appetite for collard greens and corn bread, and ice cream too. LOL I knew something was wrong and I was scared to go to bed without checking. I am lucky to be alive…and I’m thankful. LOL

I’m seriously proud of myself BECAUSE of the fact that I MAY be at death’s door and I’m not sad; YET!   LOL

But Riley JR is different. SO, I’m grooming and coaching him now how to think and feel and act about MY sickness and MY death.
I’ve always said that I wanted to be at my own funeral and get all that
“loving attention” that is usually bestowed upon the dead.

Well, I’m not dead yet, BUT, I have declared to my family and everybody I come in contact with, that my funeral has started and is being played out right now and will continue until I cease to exist. LOL
So until then, meet my “needs” and my “wants” and gimme my accolades and my kudos while I’m alive. LOL

Y’all remember my unpopular views about Black community issues, well, my rhetoric has gotten worst. LOL.
I am very busy promoting my rhetoric via my friendship service, while the rest of the family do whatever they do because we all got more different and separate interests and lifestyle choices these days.

My liver cancer has been described as very aggressive. That means Chemo may or may not save me.
But, so far, I still reside in HappyVille, because I am lucky to have family that cater and comfort me in the way I want them too. Thank God!

So, I ask …
Try not to grieve instead try to believe that I need to be heard and understood (no need for you to agree) LOL

Until my next email message, I wish you all good health.
Love always,
Ms Ruth



Normal Nice VS The Art Of Being Nice

“Normal Nice”
is being responsible for helping meet the needs of others while at the same time
leaving yourself open to being taken advantage of, or treated like a “pushover”.

“The Art of Being Nice”
is being capable of dealing with family, friends, associates, co-workers and all
our relationship issues without victimizing them while at the very same time being mentally and physically capable of avoiding being victimized by them.

Join Ms Ruth’s “Niceness” Movement and listen and learn as Ms Ruth grooms and coaches you on the “Art of Being Nice” on her daily online radio program.

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Have You Heard It?

Have You Heard It?
Heard What?

Ms Ruth Rhetoric
Freethinking honest feelings  coming from the heart of Ruth Sims

AKA Ms Ruth, Owner and Operator of Ms Ruth’s Friendship Service
AKA Non Angry Chocolate Chick
AKA Self-Proclaimed Mother Of The Universe
will be “running it down” every day on her online radio show exactly how her “niceness” concept is an effective solution for eliminating “all”
of the negativity in the Black Community and beyond.

Ms Ruth Rhetoric is for Ms Ruth’s  Sponsors and  Donors.
If you are not a Sponsor or a Donor, please be aware before you tune
in of the possibility that you may think Ms Ruth Rhetoric is offensive.

However, Ms Ruth Rhetoric is never ever intended to offend,
and my Sponsors and Donors are never ever offended.

Q. What is Ms Ruth Rhetoric?
A. Ms Ruth Rhetoric is Ms Ruth’s learned life lessons, radical opinions, messages and strategies about loving relationships and happy homes with the focus being on the Black Community to which Ms Ruth belongs.

But always remember, I am friendly with every race and every race of people is equally welcome to participate and can benefit equally.

The interactive show is titled “A Black Woman Learning The Art Of Being Nice”.
Simply Listen!
Ms Ruth Rhetoric is serious, but fun rap about the issues and solutions concerning “racial harmony” “loving relationships” and “happy homes”.
The “information” that you’ll hear is very valuable. It’ll make you think and “grow”!
Just “listen” and treat the info   like a “condiment”.
Take it home and put it right next to the hot sauce to be handy to use when you need it.
It’s Entertaining, Educational, Enlightening, Empowering and Energizing

Hurry! Begin to listen! Store some Ms Ruth Rhetoric in your Knowledge Box.  It’ll help keep you from fighting with your family and close friends.

I’m confident, you’ll find the need to use Ms Ruth Rhetoric more often than not.

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Simply add your name to Ms Ruth’s “Niceness” Movement, and let Ms Ruth  “teach” you the “Art of Being Nice”.

The “Grooming and “Coaching” you’ll receive is “guaranteed” to hurry you up to the next level; no matter who you are or where you’re going.

Say It Ain’t So!

Say It Ain’t So!

If Fuck It “thoughts” are going on in my mind
Regretful “actions” will be done by my behind



Ms Ruth Rhetoric,

Ms Ruth’s Definition Of Love

Ms Ruth’s Definition Of Love

Be “nice” to me 24/7/365

Simple to understand, easy action and very effective in loving and feeling loved

My Values and Me


My Values and Me

Where ever and however
I go about learning my values is my business.

Where ever and however
you go about learning your values is your business.

My values teaches me that my values are
no better than your values; they are just different

My values instructs me how to coexist harmoniously
with other humans whose values are different from mine.

Ms Ruth, 02/01/01

Update:    Simply add your name to Ms Ruth’s “Niceness” Movement.

You Are All That!

You Are All That!

It is true 
You are "all that" and you know it
But to your friends
you are actually afraid to show it

Thru-out your life
You had to lower your self-esteem
Trying to fit in
and be like other members of the team

Well, it's time to stop
What you're practicing will later burn you
Time to call Ms Ruth 
And her rhetoric can maybe turn you

Into the person that you really want to be
while keeping friendships with those you choose to see
And do this without ever hurting no he nor no she
Hold back no more, it's OK if your friends do not agree

You are all that!
Be the quality person you've striven to be
Roll on, stay sweet, stand tall, and be free
Cause' you're not alone, you have a friend in me.
Ms Ruth Rhetoric